Unequally Yoked


Unequally Yoked


     This article is actually a letter that I’ve sent out to countless people who’ve written to us asking us for help with their Mormon girl/boyfriends.  We hope it helps those who are seeking advice or help in how to witness to their loved ones and friends. 


     First off we wanted you to know that we’re praying for you!  This relationship that you’ve formed is something we are concerned about; not just you in particular but with all young folks that write in to us.  We don’t want to offend you but just warn.  I know things are exciting when you’re young; I was young once and remember vividly how intense and real everything was for me!  Originally I was a sixth generation Mormon from Utah and in the church for 30 years.

Our (my) concern for you is that when you become involved with those in the cults (emotionally and romantically) it forms a spiritual bond over time that is problematic.  I personally meet with 2-3 young people a week just on this subject alone and have done this now since 1994.

      At any rate the Mormon people are some of the nicest, sweetest people you’re ever going to meet.  There is no one group of people who can beat their outward loveliness.  However, just under the surface lies a pool of ambiguous feelings, righteousness and emptiness that is a mess to get out of.

     Spiritually they are not worshipping the God of the Bible and you’re obviously a mature enough Christian to know this or you wouldn’t have written in to us.  Because they are not worshipping the God of the Bible, this means they are worshipping a false god.  Every time they pray that’s who they are praying to at that time-the god of Mormonism.

      Bottom line, there are two items for you here:

      1-Becoming emotionally tied to someone is a serious business.  It encourages your spirit and soul to become tied to whomever it is that you’ve become attached to.  This causes inward confusion for your spirit and a disruption of your relationship with the true God of the Bible.  It is one thing to witness to them and love them as Jesus does.  It’s quite another to become emotionally attached to them as in a spousal or girlfriend/boyfriend type of relationship.

The ties that I had just w/ my family, i.e. brothers, sisters, parents, aunts, uncles, etc was difficult enough to break when I became a Christian.  I’ve been married to my husband now for over 20 years and I cannot imagine what it’d be like if he was still a Mormon.  First I have God in my life-as He is over all things.  Then in my personal life comes my husband, children, friends, etc.  If I had to deal with my husband being a Mormon then I cannot be who God has designed me to be or wanted from me.  Our tendency as humans is to please those who are in our lives.  I could not have served God and man at the same time.

      2-If you go in “under-cover” you will be taking the same oaths they are taking and to the same god.  While you are in the meetings, etc you may just be lip-syncing your way through it, but you are exposing your spirit to Satan.  While he can’t read your mind or know your thoughts, he can perceive what you are doing and you’d be in his stomping grounds.  I never go to their meetings because I refuse to take their oaths, join them in their prayers, etc.  This is truly a battle and it is to be fought on the outside in, not the other way around. 

We highly advise against anyone doing this.  We encounter enough spiritual warfare and we know that God is the victor in it all, but we do not ever advocate that you pray or take their sacraments or participate with oath taking.  These are the things you would have to do if you go at it this way.

      What you can do is try to engage your friend in a Christian Bible study w/ you at your church or meetings.  I have written extensively on how to witness to loved ones and friends in Mormonism.  If you’re interested there are several articles on the website for tips on how to witness.  Even if your friend is a non-active Mormon right now there is always the chance he/she could become active at any time.  The best thing to do is to begin witnessing to them and invite him/her to your church, do Bible and word studies with them, Christian concerts, anything but go to the LDS Church. 

      Remember Mormonism isn’t just a religious affiliation they belong to.  It’s a culture and heritage that they are usually born into, thus making the ties that bind much stronger than just the non-denominational or Baptist church down the street.  They’re just as much a Mormon as you are an American!

     Hope this has helped shed some light for you and know that we’re praying!  Hope to hear from you soon!


With Love in Christ;

Michelle Grim

1 Cor. 1:18-9



Dear Ed,

I hope you read this; I am in love with a very beautiful Mormon girl. I am
in college (just so you know the age here) I don’t know what to do! I’ve
accepted the possibility that it may not work out between us, but I refuse
to give up. I am Non-Denominational Christian and I have done some major
research on the LDS church for the past year. Now I am on a mission to do
everything in my power to fight this horrible cult. I have been thinking
about getting much more serious with my efforts, dedicating my time and life
to it, much like you and your ministry. But now I need help, I know the
facts, I am witnessing to here through true love and showing her how happy I
am with my life ect. But it’s not going to be enough. I could use your help

Ps. as far as the war between the Truth and this cult goes, what would you
opinion be of “going under cover” in there church? I realize the idea has a
bit of Hollywood in it but it seems that if “our side” had “agents” inside
their extremely organized society, we could do some major damage! I view all
of this as an actual war between us, I also think that its time to fight
very seriously!




First off we wanted you to know that we are praying for you and your fiancée.  I know this is an exciting time for both of you and there are many expectations on both your parts.  Our main concern for you and her above all else is your salvation.


By getting baptized into the Mormon Church you are taking an oath to the god of Mormonism.  They do not believe in, nor do they worship the God or Jesus of the Bible.  They have gone out of their way to make sure people understand they are not worshipping the same God as the historical Judeo-Christian body of Christ has done for 2,000 years now.


You’re right about buildings, etc., this is actually what woke me up after 30 years of being a Mormon.  Originally I was a sixth generation Mormon from Utah.  I was actually told by a bishop at my daughter’s funeral that I wouldn’t ever see my daughter in heaven because I hadn’t been married in the temple.  I subsequently buried my heritage the same day I buried my daughter, not believing that Jesus would send me to hell for not being married in a certain building….


Here are a few examples of what the Bible says about God and Jesus and what the various prophets and/or leaders of the church have said about God and Jesus. Remember it wasn’t me who said these things…it was the church that made these claims.

Nature and character of God in the Bible:

Isaiah 43:10-11; “Ye are my witnesses, saith the LORD, and my servant whom I have chosen: that ye may know and believe me, and understand that I am he: before me there was no God formed, neither shall there be after me. I, even I, am the LORD; and beside me there is no saviour.”

LDS Teachings:

The Teachings of Joseph Smith, pg. 349; “In the beginning, the head of the Gods called a council of the Gods; and they came together and concocted a plan to create the world and people it. When we begin to learn this way, we begin to learn the only true God, and what kind of a being we have got to worship.”


John 4:24; “God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth.”

LDS Teachings:

D&C 130:22; “The Father has a body of flesh and bones as tangible as man’s; the Son also; but the Holy Ghost has not a body of flesh and bones, but is a personage of Spirit. Were it not so, the Holy Ghost could not dwell in us.”

Nature and Character of Jesus in the Bible:

Colossians 1:15-8 says; “Who is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of every creature. For by him were all things created, that are in heaven, and that are in earth, visible and invisible, whether they be thrones, or dominions, or principalities, or powers: all things were created by him, and for him. And he is before all things, and by him all things consist. And he is the head of the body, the church: who is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead; that in all things he might have the preeminence.”

LDS Teachings:

Mormon Doctrine pg. 129; ‘By obedience and devotion to the truth he attained that pinnacle of intelligence which ranked him as a God, as the Lord omnipotent, while yet in his pre-existent state. …he was then chosen to work out the infinite and eternal atonement…and to put the whole plan of redemption, salvation, and exaltation in operation.’


John 1:1, 14; “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth.”

LDS Teachings:Doctrines of Salvation, vol. 1:32; “Our Savior was a God before he was born into this world, and he brought with him that same status when he came here. He was as much a God when he was born into the world as he was before. But as far as this life is concerned it appears that he had to start just as all other children do and gain his knowledge line upon line.”

These are but a few examples of what the church thinks of God and Jesus from the Bible and as you can see they are vastly different from what the Bible says about them!

The problem with joining the church and your salvation in Christ is that you wouldn’t be worshipping Him any longer.  When you take the oaths in the temple and at baptism by joining the church you are in essence denouncing the Jesus of the Bible.

Acts 4:12 says there is no other name given under heaven given unto men whereby we are saved.  Luke is speaking of salvation through Jesus only.  The LDS church says in D&C 1:30 that they are the only true church on the face of the earth.  Not only this all throughout the Book of Mormon in countless places Joseph Smith calls the body of Christ the whore of the earth.  1 Nephi 14:10 is just one example of this teaching.

I pray you give this some serious thought before doing this and then decide to follow Jesus exclusively.  Belonging to a church doesn’t have to include your denunciation of the Jesus of the Bible.  Hope to hear from you soon.

With Love in Christ;

Michelle Grim


—– Original Message —–

From: Fred

To: ed@saintsalive.com

Sent: Tuesday, January 03, 2006 9:06 AM

Subject: Mormon Investigator


Ed, I’m getting married in a few months to a woman that was raised Mormon. She has not been active in over 20years but still thinks of the church as the church of her youth and she still considers herself Mormon.


My question is this. I’ve looked at many of the Anti Mormon websites including Christian Research Institute and tried to get a sense of how the Mormons stack up when it comes to the Bible.


Now, personally, I don’t care about church differences, ie temples, structure etc. What I CARE about is what is heretical to the point of my salvation?  I have been born again in my belief that Jesus died for my sins.  Are you saying if I attend the Mormon Church and get baptised I’ll be risking my salvation, already paid for?


I’ve read many of your documents, most recently your letter to an Elder. Lots of neat facts, but I still don’t see what will prevent my salvation?  I’m never going to renouce Jesus as Lord and Master.



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