On October 27, 1988 our daughter, Mallory Elizabeth, died. My husband Kirk and I were told by the bishop at her funeral that because we hadn’t been married in the temple, we’d never see her again and she’d be given to another family who was worthy. Therefore, we had no salvation either.
Jesus told us in the book of John it is through Him and Him only that we would see the Father. Wouldn’t it stand to reason He would have told us to get married in a certain building if it were necessary?
“The ordinances of the temple, the endowment and sealings, pertain to exaltation in the celestial kingdom, where the sons and daughters are. The sons and daughters are not outside in some other kingdom. The sons and daughters go into the house, belong to the household, have access to the home. “In my Father’s house are many mansions.” Sons and daughters have access to the home where he dwells, and you cannot receive that access until you go to the temple. Why? Because you must receive certain key words as well as make covenants by which you are able to enter. If you try to get into the house, and the door is locked, how are you going to enter, if you haven’t your key? You get your key in the temple, which will admit you… If parents are righteous, they will have their children after the resurrection. Little children who die, whose parents are not worthy of an exaltation, will be adopted into the families of those who are worthy.” Joseph Fielding Smith, Doctrines of Salvation, 2: 40, 56.