Before we get into the actual “study” part of this Mentoring Handbook, I feel there is one critical point to understand about the ex-Mormon before you begin.
When I left Mormonism after thirty years, it didn’t take me long to realize that every single thing I knew in life was a lie.
Everything from food and clothing to the English language has to be re-evaluated by the person leaving the Church. Because they have lived in a state of fear of losing salvation and sometimes jobs, families and homes which can produce paranoia, sometimes there is a great amount of confusion in their minds. Threats, whether real or implied, have been the main meal of doctrine they’ve been fed. In this religion the meaning of words and information from the “outside” has been twisted by leaders of the Church in order to control the members. Being taught you will lose salvation by not belonging to their church is a threat and a scary process to have to endure.
The length of time and level of activity spent in the Church typically determines how long it’ll take to work through the exodus of Mormonism.
I spent thirty years in Mormonism. I was born and raised inOgden,Utahwithin mainstream Mormonism. I was a sixth generation, devout, active member up until the time I leftUtahat the age of eighteen. From that time until I “officially left”, I spent twelve plus years trying to figure out how to leave without becoming a “whore of Babylon” and lived in fear of the Mormon Church.
After I got saved it took me a few years of intense study before I finally felt that I had truly escaped. There was a lot of baggage needing to be unpacked.
This handbook is not intended for you to spend a decade with this person during their exodus. Instead, it is meant to give you a basic outline and ideas of introducing the ex-Mormon into their new life. There are twenty chapters with each chapter touching upon core Mormon doctrines.
We compare each of those Mormon doctrines with biblical Christianity and provide a short homework section at the end of each chapter.
A few ex-Mormons may need to see a professional counselor. Please know your limits as well as their needs. If you’re not a trained psychiatrist or psychologist we highly suggest you help them find one if or when needed.
This doesn’t mean you can’t help them with the doctrinal issues. This is what the Mentoring Handbook is designed for! When the ex-Mormon learns why Mormonism is not biblically correct it provides reassurance they didn’t imagine the crazy beliefs of Mormonism while helping them to spiritually denounce the old tapes of incorrect doctrine.
No matter their needs, the entire exodus will take time and the caring heart of a good friend or family member to lean upon. When our Lord is in charge the end results are priceless!
Below are direct links to each chapter in the Mentoring Handbook.
Mentoring Handbook by Chapter